These are not exhaustive by any means, but they are things that I have documented in my head over the years, and thought I would begin a continual list of musings. This one is on marriage. I'll probably update this as more come to mind. Thought that my mistakes in the past may be of some help to some of you men.
1) Your wife’s home is her office, be sure you allow for enough funds in your budget for her decorate her home to her liking.
2) Call her during the middle of the day for no particular reason other than to tell her hello and that you’ve been thinking of her.
3) Let your children know that your wife is #1 and they are #2. They will be shocked to hear this at first, but they will realize that it is best that they are # 2 in relation to your wife.
4) Take over all parental duties when you get home from work. If the kids need attending to take care of it.
5) Tell your wife she has a nice haircut after she gets her hair cut. In fact find out when she’s going to get her hair cut and make sure you input in your PDA, day timer, or whatever you use to organize your day.
6) Give yourself and your wife enough time in the evening to talk about the day. This means teaching your children that after, for example, 8:00 pm everyone goes to their room to read or do some quiet activity. This will give you at least a couple of hours before bed to talk to your wife.
7) Involve her in your ministry as much as possible. In other words, if possible, serve together.
8) Screen all calls when you get home from the office, this will allow you to prioritize your phone calls.
9) Don’t answer the phone between the time you get home and the time your kids go to bed.
10) Don’t walk into the house after a day at work talking on the cell phone or the family will walk away dejected.
11) Your wife is your best ally in helping you pursue holiness and purity.
12) Ask her about her quiet times with the Lord, regularly.
13) Ask her how you can be of most help in encouraging her in her walk with the Lord.
14) Learn to cry in front of your wife. She needs to see your sensitive side periodically.
15) Make every effort to resolve conflict before going to bed.
16) If you get into a conflict in front of your children, resolve that conflict in front of them as well.
17) Find out ways you could encourage her to use her spiritual gifts. For example, if you believe her spiritual gift is hospitality, then initiate bringing people into your home for meals etc…
2) Call her during the middle of the day for no particular reason other than to tell her hello and that you’ve been thinking of her.
3) Let your children know that your wife is #1 and they are #2. They will be shocked to hear this at first, but they will realize that it is best that they are # 2 in relation to your wife.
4) Take over all parental duties when you get home from work. If the kids need attending to take care of it.
5) Tell your wife she has a nice haircut after she gets her hair cut. In fact find out when she’s going to get her hair cut and make sure you input in your PDA, day timer, or whatever you use to organize your day.
6) Give yourself and your wife enough time in the evening to talk about the day. This means teaching your children that after, for example, 8:00 pm everyone goes to their room to read or do some quiet activity. This will give you at least a couple of hours before bed to talk to your wife.
7) Involve her in your ministry as much as possible. In other words, if possible, serve together.
8) Screen all calls when you get home from the office, this will allow you to prioritize your phone calls.
9) Don’t answer the phone between the time you get home and the time your kids go to bed.
10) Don’t walk into the house after a day at work talking on the cell phone or the family will walk away dejected.
11) Your wife is your best ally in helping you pursue holiness and purity.
12) Ask her about her quiet times with the Lord, regularly.
13) Ask her how you can be of most help in encouraging her in her walk with the Lord.
14) Learn to cry in front of your wife. She needs to see your sensitive side periodically.
15) Make every effort to resolve conflict before going to bed.
16) If you get into a conflict in front of your children, resolve that conflict in front of them as well.
17) Find out ways you could encourage her to use her spiritual gifts. For example, if you believe her spiritual gift is hospitality, then initiate bringing people into your home for meals etc…
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Great practical suggestions! Thank you!
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